I am a fan of intentions setting. No goals and objectives any more. Simply intentions. Leaves room for manoeuvre without the risk of feeling a failure. Leaves room for the unexpected and for changing course guilt-free. Intentions all the way. And visions.
I have a vision board. Because images speak loud to me. Because images are concise and capture loads in a minimal way. Taking up little space and little time to create or to process. In many ways – the minimalist’s perfect tool for intentions setting.
So I’ve got a visions board. It’s not a scrapbook. It’s a board. On the wall board. For daily reference. For in-your-face-are-you-forgetting-what’s-important reference.
And it the middle of it is an image of a phrase and that’s “Today I Choose JOY”.
It is my intention that JOY is central to absolutely everything and everyone I consciously choose to engage with.
I don’t want my interactions with humans to be toxic and hard work. No. I want you and me, if we happen to cross paths, to judge whether we stay or move on by reference to how much joy we experience together. And to intend to bring joy into each other’s lives, purposefully, with intent. I want to want to make you happy and experience joy. And I want you to want to make me happy and experience joy. And sometimes we will together tap into a source of common joy that takes us by surprise and we should pay attention to that and be wowed by it and be conscious to it. Otherwise, if we are no joy in each other’s lives, it’s best to keep moving. No hard feelings. Just not a match for shared Joy.
And I don’t want my life to be a struggle. I intend for it to be a joy. So appointments, tasks, missions, plans, could do-s, should do-s, must do-s: if they don’t bring joy, I am not interested. It’s such an easy tool to help decide.
I can’t pretend it works all the time but oh boy, if I remember that’s what’s central – then decision making is easy. Decisions about my day. Decisions about go-live projects. Decisions about recurring commitments. Super easy. No joy? Not for me, thanks.
It is mindblowingly simple. It’s a choice. Requires the courage to say “No” sometimes. Requires having to let go of some things and some people and some commitments. It does require some internal struggle in the process until you admit there is no joy left in it. But it is worth it.
I am in the process. As I continue to let go until what’s left is very little, I can see clearer that’s going to be left. Only pure joy. And that was the intention all along. Couldn’t be more joyous about that.
Much Love,
Eliza Do Little (only that which beings you JOY; the choice is yours)
P.S. Some of the things I have worked out bring me Joy, and not necessarily in any order:
the green outside, sunsets, sunrises, water, waves, writing, stand-up comedy, Bulgarian folklore, dancing horo next to people who love it as much as I do, the understated intimacy of holding his hand, dog creatures, chopping up vegetables, cooking, walking, driving alone with the radio on full blast, being a mum, puzzles, soups, dress up parties, Dixit and board games generally, crossing The Thames (any bridge will do), learning, learning design, being on stage, teaching (the last two-three overlap), creativity generally, Serenity and all I discovered in the search for it, sleep (afternoon naps rock!), languages, going for a run on a sunny crisp morning, anything about Japan, my garden, some people, books I actually get, colours, a big bowl of dark cherries – all for me, solitude, maps, lanterns, picnics, fairy lights, giraffes, stained glass, churches and temples of any faith, swings, violins, empty beaches, early morning cuddles, birdsong, rainbows, panoramic views, palm trees, musical theatre/big productions, playing with the little people in my life, trampolines, drinking coffee in the sunshine, sunshine, the bright/warmth/colour/freshness of changing seasons, turning the corner on my road in spring and seeing the blooming trees, morning pages, airports, solving equations, tulips and magnolias, yellow, clean bedsheets fresh off the washing line, tidy uncluttered spaces, musicals and music concerts, not being in a rush… It is my intention to fill up life with as much of that as I can master and anything else is irrelevant, unless it also starts to bring joy, at which point I will chose to invite it in. I am choosing to choose Joy.